As a follow up to Lesson C: How to Contact Abundant Supply, lets explore the theme of “Self Encouragement”? If we do not encourage ourselves, then how do we expect to make much progress?
Bernard has provided us with a simple, powerful and effective way to have a successful life “Lesson C: How to Contact Abundant Supply”. He simply proposes that we take charge of thoughts and in time we will realise that as we change how we think, we will change what we experience in life. This will provide us with faith as we will see that the laws of attraction works. We just need to believe enough to try it for ourselves. That is enough to get our life going in a whole, new direction.
Now here is something else we can do which is to begin to have faith in ourselves. To begin to awaken to our own good and our capacity for good.
You want a happy and confident approach to life, I imagine. You want to feel good when you wake up in the morning ready to face the day. Yes? You want good health, satisfying work, good friends and a loving relationship. Sounds about right? Yet to have these you have to give up something. You have to give up self-judgement and self-criticism. There are no two ways about it. Either you help yourself; or you hinder yourself. You either help yourself with Self Encouragement; or you hinder yourself through self-judgement and self-criticism.
Too often we can get caught up in self-judgement and self-criticism. Yet, that just reinforces a fearful, nervous and wary approach to life. You do no want that, surely? Perhaps you think that self-judgement and self-criticism help you. If you look at their actual affects you will find they certainly do not. Who would bring out the best in you? Would it be someone who blames and criticizes you, or someone who praises and encourages you? Naturally the person who praises and encourages will bring out the best in you. So why do you do the opposite to yourself and expect it to do any good?
Many people do not know how to praise and encourage, so expecting someone else to do this for you is not practical. You have to praise and encourages yourself. Will that work? Of course it works. You can make yourself wither under a barrage of self blame; so why not bathe yourself in a warm glow of encouragement? Congratulate yourself when you do well. Pat yourself on the back when you do something good and right.
Are you worried that it might make you arrogant. No, it will not. Not if you also start to praise and encourage those around you too. Just a little at first, till they and you get used to it. It might be a simple thing, “Oh, I like your jacket. Looks good on you.”, “You are looking well. Have you been on holiday!”, “You know I have always admired the way you….” (and tell them something you have always admired about them).
Learn this simple thing and you will change your life in many unbelievable ways. Self Encouragement will unlock, inner gifts, abilities and character qualities that you did not even realise were there.
Of course, you will want to acknowledge if you made a mistake, or did not do something as well as you would have liked. Through Self Encouragement this will become a construcive process. You will have an underlying feeling of wellbeing, which enables you to look clear-eyed at yourself and happily see ways that you can improve. It will be a feeling of “Nice try, but I could have done such and such a better”; not a withering winter blast of self blame.
What have you done well today? Notice it, be pleased about it and give yourself a healthy, enjoyable treat as a reward (eat a mango, go to a nice nature place, have a nice foamy bath). If you could have done something better imagine yourself doing it again in a new and better way, revelling in the progress you have made.
Blessings,
William M.